How to Get off the Emotional and Financial Roller Coaster in Your Biz and Life
How you feel affects your business and your life. When you sign a new client or have a record sales week or month, you are probably flying high. Then when you hit a slump or when you feel like the things that worked in the past are no longer growing your business, you respond with emotion as well. But this emotion might feel like overwhelm, frustration, sadness, anger, or hopelessness
How you feel when you hit a roadblock or challenge in your business can indicate whether you will be successful in the long run.Click to tweet
How you feel when you hit a roadblock or challenge in your business can indicate whether you will be successful in the long run. If you meet the roadblock with a solution oriented mental attitude, you will most likely succeed. If you meet the challenge with fear, anxiety, and stress, you may struggle overall in your business.
In the first instance, when a person experiences a setback, this person will say to themselves, “Here is an opportunity to find a solution.” And this person will enjoy the process of the solution. In the second instance, a person might react like this, “I can’t believe this is happening. What if I lose everything? How am I going to make it through this?”
You can ask yourself, “Am I operating out of fear or love?”
If you truly enjoy your business and you can remember why you started it in the first place, you can whether the ups and downs with skill and creativity.
But what about when the stress persists?
How can you move from fear to love or joy or inner peace?
The answer lies beyond willpower. Did you know negative emotions can be addicting? In fact, they can be as addicting as sugar, cocaine, or cigarettes. If you find yourself repeatedly feeling sad, angry, resentful, and/or frustrated regularly, it may be that you have conditioned yourself to have this repetitive thought pattern.
Anything we do repeatedly has some reward, or we wouldn’t do it. What can be rewarding about stressful emotions? Emotional stress can trigger a response in your brain which is interpreted as a reward. This is part of the reason why some people seem addicted to drama. If you wonder if you have this drama tendency, notice if people tend to come to you frequently when something bad happens. Do you get a bit of a thrill from it?
It is normal to feel sad when we experience a loss or to be angry if we are hurt or let down. For the purposes of this article, I am not talking about the normal range of human emotions that we are lucky and blessed to experience. I do mean habitual thoughts that are intrusive and recurring patterns. For example, the habit of frustration is frequently one of those emotions that we condition ourselves to experience. You probably have met someone who seems frustrated almost all the time.
It may be a revelation to you to see that negative emotions have a reward that keeps you in a perpetual cycle. The cool thing about seeing this cycle is that you can interrupt it. You can use distraction, meditation, exercise, journal exercises, music, massage, tapping, NLP, affirmations, and other techniques that create a reward experience and are also good for you.
Create a list of activities that you enjoy. When you find the problematic, recurring thoughts arising, you can choose an activity from your list. I sometimes ask clients to create a list of 50 to 100 things that they could do instead of the negative thought habit pattern.
As you practice more positive thoughts and actions, you will create new supportive success habits. You will feel much better after five to seven days of successfully interrupting negative thoughts. When you hit the 14, 21, 30 and 90-day markers you will also notice an exponential improvement in your emotional intelligence and your freedom to think positive and productive thoughts.
Create a daily success practice with your favorite tools and actions that bring joy, help you feel centered, and remind you that you are a powerful deliberate creator.Click to tweet
Incorporate your practice into a morning success ritual and you will have better results than if you do it later in the day.
Put yourself first. When you take care of what you need, you have more energy for other people and your business. Practice your success ritual first each day.
As you step into your power, remember why you chose your business or career. What is the difference that you make? Why does it hold meaning for you? As you meet daily challenges and define the problem, don’t stay in the problem, ask… What is the solution? Focus on the solution. Affirm there is a solution.
If you need more ideas on how to increase your business, attract clients or sell more products:
- Join a mastermind, a Facebook group, and/or a LinkedIn group.
- Research your problem.
- Ask questions.
- Go through your notes and folders. Review things that have worked for you and consider how your techniques could be tweaked.
- Let go of attachment.
- Consider getting help through industry associations or hiring a consultant or coach.
- Attend educational events.
- Make it your goal to invest in yourself and your business.
- Stay fresh and flexible so you can adjust and make needed changes.
- Avoid this thought: “I have always done it this way.” Instead think, “What can I learn?”
- Pay attention to your measurables in your business so that you will notice when a method or technique isn’t effective any longer.
- Trust your intuition. If you feel inspired, take action steps.
- Work with your strengths and your style. Learn your entrepreneurial style with this quiz.
- When your business is thriving, save ten to twenty percent as a cash flow cushion.
You can decide that you don’t want to be on the emotional and financial roller coaster, you can choose a different ride. Life and business do have ups and downs, but your emotions and finances don’t have to go up and down. As you successfully navigate through a bit of a slump, your confidence will grow, too.
Sheri Kaye Hoff, Ph.D.
Coach and Trainer, Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, Ph.D.Business and Life Strategist known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri Kaye Hoff inspires people to the do work they love and make money.She is a near-death survivor and thriver. Learn More