Day 9 of the 12 Days of Joy
Practice a Mindset Reset
How to Master Your Mindset During the Holidays
The quality and experience of your holidays are directly related to how you think. If you want to have a magical holiday season, focus on mastering your mindset and then everything else falls into place. How you think determines your perception, therefore your reality. So if you want to change your reality, it starts with your thinking. During the festive holiday season, it is likely that your activity level will increase. Falling into thinking traps becomes so easy when you are busy and distracted. You might forget to do the things that keep you grounded and centered like exercise, writing in a journal, meditation, deep breathing, and rest.
When you step away from your center, ego takes over. Suddenly, you are insulted and angry because people don’t say thank you, or the person in line ahead or behind you is rude. You feel like your colleagues don’t appreciate you. You forget that people are human and not perfect. Your happiness dips and you may slide into overwhelm.
Your world is created by how you think. You are capable of being a deliberate creator of your life and experiences instead of merely reacting. Keep your focus on a growth mindset where you know you can develop strengths and keep learning. Nothing is fixed. Your personality, your talent can all be developed. You are capable of change.
“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.” Steve Maraboli Click to tweet
You have the power to choose your responses. You can choose to pause before you speak or act. You can also use “the pause” to adjust your thinking. For example, when someone doesn’t say thank you, you pause and reframe the situations. Maybe that person is distracted, stressed, or worried. Maybe you CAN do nice things without depending on being thanked.
Your happiness does not depend on anyone else’s reaction.
Happiness is a decision. It’s a state of being. You can choose a happiness mindset. You can make that choice without it being contingent on job offers, money, status, relationships. etc.
Your view of success is a thought choice, too. When I coach people, I foster the idea that you are a successful writer, actor, coach, healer, or business person before the book gets published, the role is landed, or the clients come in. This success mindset paves the way to bringing their dreams into reality.
“I truly believe in positive synergy, that your positive mindset gives you a more hopeful outlook, and belief that you can do something great means you will do something great.” Russell Wilson Click to tweet
Success happens first in your thoughts, then in the daily actions and success is found in the present moment.
Inner peace is also a mindset. You can choose inner peace even if there is chaos around you. You can choose peace no matter what is happening around you.
Try these helpful practices that only take a few minutes:
- Hitting your thought reset button when you feel like you are off your inner game. This starts with a pause, and then you can even mentally or actually say, “I reset. I choose to think…(fill in the blank)”.
- Practicing compassion for others. A little love and understanding go along way. See things from others’ perspectives.
- Practicing patience. Deep breaths help. Doing a body scan and noticing muscle tension will help. When you notice tense muscles, mentally say, “Relax, let go.”
- Keep doing the actions that are part of your success ritual. Make time for these. However, adjust your expectations. If you normally write in your journal for 30 minutes, even 5 minutes will help. If you exercise for an hour normally, and you only have 10 or 20 minutes, it will still benefit you.
- Stop complaining. Notice what is working.
- Spread some joy. Get intentional. Decide that you are going to share some joy each day.
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