How do you create an optimal life and why should you even care about it?
You know how life tends to unfold. You experience the unpredictable, the excitement, the stress, the mundane, the achievements, the mistakes, and the bliss, and more. Life feels fast and sometimes it feels slow. Do you feel like life is happening to you? Or that suddenly weeks have gone by and you think, what have I even accomplished? When you feel like this, it helps to remember that you are a deliberate creator. You can create the thoughts and actions steps that lead to results that you want.
“You can either be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It all depends on how you view your life.” Paulo Coelho (Author, The Alchemist)Click to tweet
This is why leading an optimal life is important. What is an optimal life? I define it as being able to live a life of freedom, possibilities, mindfulness, making a difference, powerful decision making, great relationships, and the good stuff (however you define it). You also might have a different definition of an optimal life. This is a good time to pause and write out your thoughts.
Writing is a powerful exercise that often provides immediate insight. For instance, when I examine what is on my mind in a given moment, I like to compare it to my list of priorities. High priority items for me are health, happiness, love, family, and abundance. If whatever is on my mind is not in one of those categories, why am I even wasting time and energy on it?
Do your research. If you find that you are ruminating on a subject no matter how hard you try to let it go, chances are that someone else has experienced your situation. When I got in a fender bender, and I still felt nervous about driving a few days later, I googled this “driving after a car accident” I found out that it is normal to be nervous and that the feeling tends to go away after about 30 days and if it doesn’t a person might want to seek help. I felt immediate peace knowing that what I was experiencing was normal and stopped wasting time worrying about it.
If you are dealing with an unpleasant co-worker- research articles. You will find great suggestions and also realize that your situation is probably normal.
5 Simple Ways to Create Your Optimal Life
Remember that you get to choose your thoughts and actions. This is where willpower enters the picture. You will need to develop your willpower muscles so they are strong enough to remind you every day, several times a day that you always have choices. Techniques that work for this is to create a routine and create an environment that is supportive. Create a routine that you do every single morning. This routine will help solidify your belief that you are a deliberate creator. The best routines are simple. Perhaps a gratitude list, or an exercise routine. My daily routine consists of getting out of bed and doing 5 minutes of stretching and deep breathing, followed by a cup of coffee and then a journaling session. My routine has changed a few times over the years, but the point is to create something that starts your day with empowerment.
Get clear about what is most important. This means honoring what you truly value and then choosing what you really want in your life. This clarity might mean that you decide you want to live in a tiny house, or buy an RV and live all over the country, or live in a lake home, or in the city, the mountains, a retirement community, a golf community, the suburbs, a gated community… depending on the lifestyle you value. You might make work decisions based on doing what you love, the freedom to make your own schedule, the financial opportunities. You might choose to have more family meals together. You might give away or sell some of your belongings or make significant purchases. If you are struggling with getting clear, you will love this 14 minute audio on getting clear.
Let go of thoughts, people, situations, and things that do not line up with your highest priorities.Click to tweet
Let go of thoughts, people, situations, and things that do not line up with your highest priorities. You might let go of caring whether some people like you or caring about what they think. You might end relationships. You might delegate or eliminate tasks. You might find yourself saying an empowering no more often. You could decide to stay out of the drama. You might choose to spend more time with some people.
Letting go can be challenging because it is comfortable to let things stay the same. Letting go could feel like a loss. Energy exercises like tapping are great for helping you to let go. Another good exercise is to write down everything about the situation, then burn it or tear it up and throw it out. You can also visualize letting go. Close your eyes and bunch up your fists than relax your hands and imagine letting go of this person or situation.
Invite in and take inspired actions steps. When you take the getting clear step above, you will know the overall results that you want. Brainstorm for a few minutes. Ask, what actions steps could lead me to the results that I want? Write down everything that comes up. Then review the list and choose what is most inspiring, motivating and high impact. Take at least one action step immediately.
Release attachment to results and practice gratitude. As soon as you get clear, set your goals, and decide on action steps, you think and feel, “I want it, I want it, I want it.” This strong feeling of wanting it deeply can create attachment. Attachment operates like this: you start worrying that your outcome won’t happen or you decide that anything less than your desired result means complete failure. Or you might be somewhere in between. Attachment steals your joy and keeps you from enjoying the present moment. Attachment can even stop you in your tracks. Here is an 11-minute audio podcast to help you release attachment.
One of the best ways to release attachment is to practice gratitude for everything and everyone you have already in your life. This gratitude reminds you that, “Yes, there is a lot that is pretty great right now.”
Gratitude, appreciation, happiness, and love are high energy vibration feelings. As you increase your energy, you will start creating what you want.
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Sheri Kaye Hoff
Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.
*Tapping is general advice and not medical or psychological advice.