Day 12 of 12 of the 12 Days of Christmas
Follow Your Joy and Bliss this Holiday Season
Merry Christmas. I am wishing you love, joy, passion, and peace today and all throughout the year.
What really makes you happy? Chances are that it is not the gifts, the trips, or the things. Yes, all of that is fun and it’s wonderful to enjoy and appreciate things. However, happiness comes from your inner world. Happiness is tied to feelings of freedom, adventure, fulfillment, inner peace, making a difference, and loving. If you doubt this, think back to a time when you felt unhappy and you went on a shopping spree to counteract the sadness, overwhelm, anxiety or frustration you were feeling. Maybe you felt elated for a while, but the feeling was fleeting.
When you say, I will be happy when I am out of debt, buy the house, I have kids, my kids are grown, I get that job promotion, or I go on my dream vacation, it is not true. Why? Because you bring yourself to these experiences. If you haven’t learned to be happy now, no thing or circumstance will bring lasting happiness. This is truly beautiful because this means that what you have been searching for is here now. You can be happy here now. Your goals are worthwhile and I believe humans are born to create and that we feel an inner drive to create. But we can be happy during the process.
How can you follow your joy and bliss right now and not wait for someday to be happy?
Your Grandmother was right- appreciate what you have now. This is a simple idea, but for many people, it is easier said than done. Why? Because it is so much easier to get caught up in thinking about what is unfair.
Here is a simple exercise: Make a list of everything that you feel is unjust in your life. Maybe your sibling owes you money. Maybe you lost your job due to down-sizing. Maybe your parents had favorites. Maybe you made a bad investment. You have an unreasonable ex. Write down everything. Once you finish, ask, “Am I willing to let this go?” If not, ask, “Am I willing to be willing to let this go?”
If you don’t feel willing to forgive, here is a helpful prayer that I have said many times in my life: “Dear God, Please help me to open my heart to be willing to be willing to forgive, Amen.”
This would soften my heart. Sometimes instantly or eventually, (it depended on my level of stubbornness), I would truly forgive and let go.
Even if you haven’t let go fully, yet, you can still practice gratitude and appreciation. Gratitude and resentment cannot be thoughts that are held at the same time. The more you practice gratitude, the less you will feel resentment about what is unjust or unfair in your life.
The key is to write an appreciation list and only put the things on this list that you feel grateful for, don’t put anything on that you think you should feel grateful for. No “shoulds”.
Once you are feeling deep appreciation, ask, “What would it feel like to follow my bliss today?” Pause, then notice if you get any intuitive information. Listen. If you feel guided towards an action step, take it.
Throughout your day, pause and appreciate people and your surroundings. See the beauty. See the blessings.Click to tweet
If you enjoyed this, you will really appreciate all of the posts in the 12 Days of Christmas Blogging event. Here is the list.
Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas from my family to yours.
Sheri Kaye Hoff
Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to do the work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn More About Sheri