The Amazing Effect of Love on Life, Biz, and Happiness

Whatever the problem, love is the answer. Why? because love is never wrong. Pure, unconditional, “love as an action verb” is a high energy way of being. Romantic love may fade. Passion may dwindle, ignite, and dwindle again in a cycle, but love as a way of living your life has a way of bringing forward solutions and paving new paths. Try it. Think about one of your biggest problems you are facing right now. Then, ask, “What if I could bring more love to this situation? How could I love more?

When love is so beautiful, why do many of us have conflicting thoughts and confusion regarding love? You may have experienced suffocating behavior, controlling behavior, or manipulating behavior, all in the name of love. That is not love. Love gives a person freedom to be who they really are. Love creates confidence. Love encourages. Love is kindness. Love is incredibly patient. Love allows you to figure things out on your own.

Where does being more loving start? With yourself. Practicing self-care and self-respect are acts of love. When you make a mistake, love yourself through it instead of putting yourself down. Use more loving words to describe yourself. Ask for what you really want in your relationships.

As you practice self-love, you create more power to love others. Reflect on your closest relationships. Are they great? Are they broken? Are they somewhere in-between? What is your role? I was going through a troubling time with my daughter when she was a teenager, as I thought about the relationship, a good friend prompted me with this question, “Years from now, when your daughter reflects back on her relationship with you, what do you want her to remember?” Immediately,  I knew. I wanted her to think, “No matter what, my mom loved me.”  That was what I needed for perspective. Instead of being angry and hurt, I directed more loving thoughts her way. In a short time, she was back on track, and our relationship stayed close. Part of me wanted so badly to protect her from mistakes, that I was making her feel like I didn’t approve of her anymore and that I didn’t like her. I immediately changed that. I still held her accountable, but I was more loving about it.

There is also room for practicing more love at work or in your business. Few things cause more irritation than working with someone you don’t like very much. That irritation can escalate and create an uncomfortable work environment. If you can take a step back, and find something to love about the person, or even decide to love this person only because they are human, you take responsibility for your own energy.

Love has a powerful role in leadership. Gandhi was all about love. Jesus’ ministry was about unconditional love. Mother Theresa practiced unconditional love. You can lead a movement with love. You don’t have to walk around saying, “I love you.” But, be love. Be fair. Be consistent. Be kind. Use encouraging words. Be helpful. Listen. Think before you respond.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi

Stephen Covey, leadership author,  in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, discussed love as an action verb instead of a feeling that comes and goes at whim.

“Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So, love her.” Stephen Covey

Marci Shimoff wrote about unconditional love in her book, Love For No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love. I had the privilege of interviewing Marci when she was promoting the launch of this book. She is truly one of the most loving, centered, and wise people I have ever met in my life.

“Love is your job description – no matter what you do for a living. If you ever feel unsure of what you’re supposed to do in a situation, here’s a good rule of thumb: always do what leads to greater love.” Marci Shimoff

Love also has a role in your success. Love is magnetic and attracts at a high vibration. If you have been struggling attracting clients or new customers in your business, how about directing more love to your list and to your business? Sometimes I open my contact list and look at the names on the pages, and thank each one. This is a mental exercise. I also thank people directly through email. I intentionally send love from my heart to theirs.

Rhonda Byrne discusses the powerful vibration of love in her book, The Power (The Secret).

I have read all three of the books that I reference in this article many times. The books are close at hand, and I open them to random pages for daily wisdom. If you are looking for universal principles on unconditional love, leadership, and success; plus, practical ways to implement them, you will appreciate these resources.

Whatever questions you have about your life, answering them with more loving thoughts holds the possibility of great change.

If you liked this, you will love my article on self-confidence.

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In Happiness,

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to do the work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn More About Sheri


10 thoughts on “The Amazing Effect of Love on Life, Biz, and Happiness

  1. This is a very inspiring article, and love is definitely one of my favorite subject. I am quite skeptical about unconditional love, however. Can we really love unconditionally? No matter what? Can or should a person love unconditionally a psychopath, for instant, verbally, emotionally and physically abusive?

    1. Hi Perla,
      Thank you for your comments. Unconditional love doesn’t mean you accept poor treatment. It’s about loving people because love is good. The ancient greek word for this kind of love is agape love. This is the- love the person, not the action. And loving someone unconditionally doesn’t mean you choose to have that person in your life. For example, you can love a drug addicted person, but then still have boundaries and still choose to stay away from a person. I hope that helps. I have found in my life, that love is freeing. Hate, bitterness, unforgivenss and grudges are restricting and suffocating. I guess what I am saying is unconditional love is not romantic love. It is more a state of being than a state of feeling. It’s a conscious choice. I am not sure if any person every truly reaches complete unconditional love but it is worth coming back to it and reminding yourself of its importance.

  2. I really think the work ‘love’ is used to often in inappropriate circumstances too often. I believe until you really have had your heart truly broken you can’t appreciate love in its rawest form which is what we should be striving for. Love is used to often to relate to material and frivolous things. That to me has nothing to do with love. It’s about putting everything on hold or a risk for someone, the desire to need nothing else in your life.

    1. Hi Candace,
      Beautiful thoughts on love. I agree, Heartbreak does make you appreciate the love you have in your life. I do use the word love all of the time for many things and people, but I think differently about it. When I say, I love my coffee, I am intentionally bringing more love into my life at the moment. I don’t think of love as only between a romantic couple. I think of it as a universal positive energy.

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