Whatever the problem, love is the answer. Why? because love is never wrong. Pure, unconditional, “love as an action verb” is a high energy way of being. Romantic love may fade. Passion may dwindle, ignite, and dwindle again in a cycle, but love as a way of living your life has a way of bringing forward solutions and paving new paths. Try it. Think about one of your biggest problems you are facing right now. Then, ask, “What if I could bring more love to this situation? How could I love more?
When love is so beautiful, why do many of us have conflicting thoughts and confusion regarding love? You may have experienced suffocating behavior, controlling behavior, or manipulating behavior, all in the name of love. That is not love. Love gives a person freedom to be who they really are. Love creates confidence. Love encourages. Love is kindness. Love is incredibly patient. Love allows you to figure things out on your own.
Where does being more loving start? With yourself. Practicing self-care and self-respect are acts of love. When you make a mistake, love yourself through it instead of putting yourself down. Use more loving words to describe yourself. Ask for what you really want in your relationships.
As you practice self-love, you create more power to love others. Reflect on your closest relationships. Are they great? Are they broken? Are they somewhere in-between? What is your role? I was going through a troubling time with my daughter when she was a teenager, as I thought about the relationship, a good friend prompted me with this question, “Years from now, when your daughter reflects back on her relationship with you, what do you want her to remember?” Immediately, I knew. I wanted her to think, “No matter what, my mom loved me.” That was what I needed for perspective. Instead of being angry and hurt, I directed more loving thoughts her way. In a short time, she was back on track, and our relationship stayed close. Part of me wanted so badly to protect her from mistakes, that I was making her feel like I didn’t approve of her anymore and that I didn’t like her. I immediately changed that. I still held her accountable, but I was more loving about it.
There is also room for practicing more love at work or in your business. Few things cause more irritation than working with someone you don’t like very much. That irritation can escalate and create an uncomfortable work environment. If you can take a step back, and find something to love about the person, or even decide to love this person only because they are human, you take responsibility for your own energy.
Love has a powerful role in leadership. Gandhi was all about love. Jesus’ ministry was about unconditional love. Mother Theresa practiced unconditional love. You can lead a movement with love. You don’t have to walk around saying, “I love you.” But, be love. Be fair. Be consistent. Be kind. Use encouraging words. Be helpful. Listen. Think before you respond.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi
Stephen Covey, leadership author, in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, discussed love as an action verb instead of a feeling that comes and goes at whim.
“Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions…” Stephen CoveyClick to tweet
“Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So, love her.” Stephen Covey
Marci Shimoff wrote about unconditional love in her book, Love For No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love. I had the privilege of interviewing Marci when she was promoting the launch of this book. She is truly one of the most loving, centered, and wise people I have ever met in my life.
“Love is your job description – no matter what you do for a living. If you ever feel unsure of what you’re supposed to do in a situation, here’s a good rule of thumb: always do what leads to greater love.” Marci Shimoff
Love also has a role in your success. Love is magnetic and attracts at a high vibration. If you have been struggling attracting clients or new customers in your business, how about directing more love to your list and to your business? Sometimes I open my contact list and look at the names on the pages, and thank each one. This is a mental exercise. I also thank people directly through email. I intentionally send love from my heart to theirs.
I have read all three of the books that I reference in this article many times. The books are close at hand, and I open them to random pages for daily wisdom. If you are looking for universal principles on unconditional love, leadership, and success; plus, practical ways to implement them, you will appreciate these resources.
Whatever questions you have about your life, answering them with more loving thoughts holds the possibility of great change.
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