How to Step Into Personal Empowerment Day 7 of 12 Days of Holiday Joy
Have you heard people complaining about 2020? Every time a bad thing happens, the phrase “2020 can’t be over quick enough” or even “2020 can suck it.” or even more dramatic phrases that I won’t repeat here. You can step into personal empowerment instead of getting caught up in a negative vibe,
Yes, we have been a part of a world pandemic and people have suffered. Yes, the United States has witnessed one of the most bitterly fought elections. But, I am not willing to throw out a whole year and I am not even willing to call out one day as a bad day. I might have a bad moment or even a few bad moments, but there is some piece of good in a day, let alone a whole year. Over five years ago, I nearly lost my life and I vowed to live an empowered life no matter what the circumstances. Every moment counts and I am not willing to bemoan anytime that I have here on Earth. For instance, I look for the good, the magic, and the preciousness.
You are the Meaning Maker
You are not a victim of 2020 or a victim of anything else unless you see yourself that way. Read Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning and you will see how we are meaning-makers in our lives because you get to decide the meaning. Okay, so you might be thinking, Sheri, it doesn’t seem you have suffered much this year.
In fact, my family members became ill with COVID 19 and my mother in law was in the hospital for 45 days. Then, my son’s football season was canceled and he has spent his second year of college learning remotely. Also, I haven’t seen my parents this year face to face and we have lost friends to COVID. Plus, we had to rethink our businesses.
But on the positive side, my daughter Monikka got engaged to her best friend. My friend became a grandmother for the first time. Cassie, my oldest daughter gave birth to her second child, a boy named Ace. Sonja, my youngest daughter got a job at a fast-growing medical company and she wants to make it her career. Randy, my husband, and I are closer than ever though we have gotten creative with date night dancing in the kitchen. Zooming with my friends brightens my day. I am more fit than I was last year at this time. I am closer to my clients than ever and I have new clients. My husband is still in business. And I could think of things I am grateful for all day long because I look for those things.
Do I have my moments of feeling sorry for myself or falling into worried thoughts? Of course, I do. It’s normal to have those dips, but how long you stay there is up to you.
Yet, we live in a culture that fosters a victim mentality and the blame game. Just look at social media. Something is always someone’s fault and more time is spent on fault-finding than solution-finding. We also live in a culture that looks for reasons for people to be upset. Why? because it’s dramatic.
We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.”
In order to be a fully empowered person, it’s best to avoid the trap of fault-finding and blaming and to embrace the traits of a personally empowered person that are listed below.
How can you move quickly from feeling like a victim of life to living a personally empowered life?
A personally empowered person:
- Reframes obstacles and problems into opportunities and areas for learning and growth.
- Looks for solutions.
- Does not blame other people including parents, bosses, neighbors, the government, other car drivers.
- Is not easily insulted and does not take everything personally.
- Owns decisions and takes responsibility.
- Forgives and moves on without holding grudges.
- Practices daily gratitude.
- Let’s the past go.
- Lives in the moment and plans for the future.
- Is self-aware
- Learns new skills and ideas.
- Avoids putting people down or gossiping
- Grows courage muscles and develops strong self-esteem and confidence.
- Asks for help.
- Appreciates people.
- Takes action in spite of fear.
- Acts like a driver of positive change.
Decide to be an empowered person and then incorporate this list into your life. When you slip into being a victim, quickly reframe your thoughts. It takes practice. Empowerment is a much more desirable state of being.
Often people spend years nurturing a victim mindset, so shifting it can be a process. Writing thoughts in a journal helps. Doing self-reflection and inquiry also helps. You can write, “How am I being a victim here?” How could I be more empowered?” or “What is the benefit I get when I see myself as a victim of life or other people? “Am I willing to let go of that benefit?” What are the benefits of being empowered right now?
Love yourself through the process and know that most people fall into blaming and a victim mindset at times.
If you already feel empowered, look for areas where you can go to an even higher level. Your inquiry might be “Where am I giving up my personal power?” or Where do I need to step into a more empowered role?”
How can I turn any obstacle I am currently facing into an opportunity for growth and success?
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Sheri Kaye Hoff
Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to do the work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn More About Sheri