Discover Your Inner Peace Reset with Mary Allen

Who doesn’t need and want more inner peace? Sometimes it may seem that inner-peace is out of reach, but my guest, Mary Allen, has a way of bringing you back to center with practical techniques. Mary is one of my favorite people on the planet. We met over ten years ago and she is the person who inspired me to keep doing what I am doing today. In today’s podcast, you will feel lighter, energized, and more centered.

Mary Allen, CPCC, MCC is known to many as America’s Inner Peace Coach, author of The Power of Inner Choice, and host of Conversations with the Masters interviewing best-selling authors, speakers, and coaches including Dr. Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss, Byron Katie, Debbie Ford, and countless others. For over 22 years, her diverse high achieving clientele includes business owners, entrepreneurs, moms, coaches, and even a couple of billionaires. She helps people get out of their own way and enjoy exponentially more inner peace by transforming distracting stressors, achieving their goals, and embodying their highest self. Mary offers one-on-one coaching, leads the 5-day Inner Peace Immersion Retreat, and has produced numerous home-study audio programs including “5 Minutes to Inner Peace” and “Secrets to Profound Peace and Soaring Success” among others. Mary is a graduate of the University of Wisconsin (Madison), and both CTI and Coach U. All her formal training, results, and client recommendations have earned her the accreditation of Master Certified Coach (MCC) awarded to the top 1% of coaches. Mary loves veggie smoothies and yoga. She lives in Laguna Niguel, CA with her husband John, and is a mother of 8-year-old twins. LifeCoachMary.com

Show Notes

02:34

Sheri: There is so much to talk about when it comes to Inner peace. What are some of the things that people seem to really struggle with when it comes to inner peace?

03:02

Mary: That’s part of the challenge with inner peace is there’s a gazillion ways that it can get interrupted. But we can hone right in on, by asking what all those disruptors have in common? Resistance. We have so much resistance to all the different things around us, whether it’s an annoying person, whether it’s how we judge ourselves, resistance to our own strengths, resistance to what we hear in the news, resistance to this opinion, or that opinion, resistance even to our own goals, resistance to taking on too much or taking too little. I think that’s part of the problem with the lack of inner peace is that there are many ways for it to be disrupted. We get lost in the emotion of it all.

Inner Peace and Change

04:13

Sheri: When people are on the verge of a big change. Suddenly, ego steps in and manufacturers, all these events and sequences to make things difficult and painful. What would you say, for people who are pursuing a big goal and then get that fear and panic that is a big-time inner peace disrupter?

05:12

Mary: Have compassion for all those emotions, for being in the feels, for having the crappy thoughts that are sabotaging us, that is the place to start. I go there too, sometimes, as well. And what begins to get me out of that is the compassion for our humanity, first and foremost. And then, we get to reset, we get to begin again, we get to come back to what’s important, what are we really trying to accomplish? Why are we trying to accomplish it? We want to get ourselves back into that place of inner peace, at least to a larger degree than when we’re in the throes and the fits of it. Compassion is one of those ways that begin to reconnect us into the here and the now into this reality into this present moment. And this is where we get tapped into our intuition, we can get more resourceful, we get more creative, and we are more willing to act. Starting with compassion, and then taking those extra steps to ground our sense of peace, so that your own guidance can begin to pull you out of it, or getting outside help and support. And it’s why many of us have coaches, even the coaches have coaches.

Sheri 07:36

Sometimes the mistaken belief about inner peace is that people have a tendency to think of it as passive. But to me, inner peace is, in some ways, the most active thing that you do, because chaos is easy, and reacting is the easy road. And the path to peace takes deliberation, a willingness to grow and look at things differently. When you have people say something like, well, I don’t care too much about inner peace, I just want to make money or I just want to hit that next goal. And then I’ll think about inner peace. What do you say when people have those thoughts/

08:24

The Importance and Impact of Inner Peace

Mary: Well, for starters, I totally understand. Back in the day, I had a girlfriend of mine who was all on this bandwagon about making inner peace your number one goal, and I literally was doing the real thing in my head, “inner peace , inner shmeesh.” I am a Type A person as well. And I thought, yeah, who’s interested in inner peace? But then I had back-to-back breakups. I moved. And I was in debt, I was trying to work and grow my business, and suddenly inner peace started sounding a lot juicier and more exciting. And that was really my first turning point with inner peace. And as I began to work, kind of getting excited and digging deeper. And, and having the transformations. Ultimately what happened, over time, I started making inner peace a priority. And this is when everything turned around in my life, I went from 60,000 in debt to 35,000 in savings in nine months, I started launching a leading group coaching program which boosted my income, well over six figures, I wrote my first book, The Power of Inner Choice. And I, I met my husband. Everything really came when this place of peace became really well-grounded. And I will say this as well, because I get this a lot, with talking about inner peace is I have several friends who have said, you know, Mary, I just do not get the inner peace thing. And then they will come back to me, sometimes it is a year later, sometimes it’s a month later. Inner peace is about alignment. It’s about aligning with ourselves, it’s about aligning with others, and it’s aligning with reality. And when we are square in that alignment, we can make our choices and allow our inspiration to flow.

Taking Care of Tolerations

12:39

Sheri: I know one of your big things, with inner peace is about how you live everyday life. When I read your book, one of the things that stuck with me is you ask the question, what are you tolerating? I think sometimes we tolerate things, and we don’t realize what a drain it is on our inner peace, and if we just take care of some of those tolerations that is a simple way to add a lot of peace to our days. Can you talk a little bit about tolerations? And what they are and how people can notice them and clean them up? And what difference it makes?

13:42

Yes, tolerations are one of my favorite topics. And a toleration is simply something that you have been avoiding, putting off. It can be a little tasky item, like changing a light bulb that has gone out to getting the oil changed in your car to a button that is missing from your favorite blouse, right? But every time you think about that, it is a little mini energy zapper, right. And most of us have lots of those. Not all conscious, right? We are sort of holding them somewhere in the background, but it adds up into a place of stress because we know that something is missing or not getting taken care of. What we want to do with tolerations is first and foremost is we want to do a download, we want to grab our notepad and just literally go around our house, sit in our office, just get into what are all the little tasks, the things that need to get done? What are some of the maintenance things that need to get done, what are some of the big ones like not having inner peace or having an over flooded inbox? But once we get clear on what the big tolerations are, first off, we have relief there. But then we can commit to tackling one to five tolerations a week as we are going throughout our regular day. And the result over time is that we free up so much energy, and so much of that unconscious resistance, the natural result is more inner peace. I love it because we get that quick result. As soon as you get a closet, reorganized that you’ve been putting off or the drawer that in your office that every time you open it, zaps the energy or there are many little examples, I’m sure. People might be saying, I don’t want to think about my tolerations. But now take them and pull out that sheet of paper right now. Write them down, and you do not have to do them all now. But start chipping away at them one at a time.

16:33

Sheri: I like how you said that it gives you that quick result. And those kinds of things do give you a dopamine hit. It is that feeling of completion, it’s better than a candy bar. And, and a lot of times, we just do not even realize how much the environment affects us.

16:58

There were two things that I tolerated, one was an uncomfortable office chair, and the other one was my mattress was not comfortable. And I only had it a year and I thought, well I can’t just get one year out of my mattress. Then, I wondered how much it was really affecting me. I ordered a new chair, and I ordered an awesome mattress topper. I felt so much better.

Mary, I appreciate that the work that you do is on the simplest of levels but also that you go deep and have people think through some pretty heavy stuff, but you do it in a way that doesn’t feel so overwhelming. I love your Facebook group and and of course I love and adore you and your cute adorable twins and you’re just you’re such a light in the coaching world. The world is lucky to have you. What is the inner peace reset?