Do you ever get that nagging feeling that “something” is blocking you? And in order to get rid of the blocks you have been studying, self-reflecting, and clearing, but despite your best efforts, that block is still there?

Today, I am going to bring up one of the most uncomfortable topics in human relations. What is the topic? Unconscious Envy.

There is a deep emotion that lurks beneath our conscious awareness and this is unconscious envy and it shows up like this:

• You look at your friend’s business and feel like you are so far away from achieving your goals and you stop hanging out with your friend or you make a mental list of all the reasons why she annoys you.
• You attend a networking meeting and as you listen, you feel like you don’t belong in the same group of achievers and you don’t attend another meeting because you feel inadequate; but you tell yourself that this is just the wrong group.
• You notice someone close to you has lost a lot of weight and you have gained a pound or two and you don’t compliment her or ask her how she did it.

Every day, we are presented with opportunities to feel like we don’t quite measure up. We have all had that experience.

I find that people react differently to this inevitable temptation to compare their lives to other people’s lives. Sometimes a person will give up thinking that he or she doesn’t have a chance. Other times people react and engage in some sort of sabotage or self-sabotage. My favorite positive reaction is when people see great accomplishments and think, “if she can do it, I can do it, too. What do I need to learn or experience in order to achieve what I want?”

This act of comparison can be disappointing or it can be an exciting challenge. If you are never around people who are smarter, better at something, or achieved more than you have, you slow down your own growth. The people who are able to transcend unconscious envy are the ones who experience explosive growth. These people will hang out with successful, accomplished people and truly appreciate them. They will learn from these people and they will also share their knowledge. Remember, you do add value, too. You have something great to share.

I feel like the mastermind concept evolved from this process of people being willing to set aside unconscious envy and gather talented people so everyone can learn and grow from each other.

The antidote to unconscious envy? Love and gratitude. If you recognize that some unconscious envy is operating in your life, practice more love, more self-love, and daily gratitude.  The big reveal on unconscious envy is the habit/pattern of sabotage. If you are sabotaging, start implementing love and gratitude.

“At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” Albert Schweitzer

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Sheri Kaye Hoff

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to do the work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn More About Sheri